I had a decent job before I met her and I was responsible for all the decisions I took, which mostly led to favourable outcomes.

However when I met her and began a relationship, I wasn’t having the freedom I needed.

Any decision I wanted to take without her authorization always ended badly.

For example there was a period I wanted to jointly rent an apartment with a male friend of mine. She strongly opposed this but I still went ahead to pay rent.

Unfortunately for me, within four months my friend had some issues with landlord and we were both evicted from the apartment. (although I got compensated)

Another instance was when I got paid some bonuses from company and decided to invest in some crypto projects during their ICOs (in 2017).

I did some market analysis of these crypto projects before my decision to invest, only for her to advice me against it. She said we should instead, use the money to start farming.

I didn’t listen to her and went ahead to invest.

THE RESULT: the investment that was supposed to take me to the moon now became more worthless than tissue paper! I shed tears because of this.

I now decided to get rid of her, but all plans of mine proved abortive. The more I tried to get her out of my life, the more we were brought together.

Can you believe that the day I finally proposed to her was the very same day I tried to make out with an old girlfriend?

A friend of mine went to consult an ifa priest, who told him that my fiance has a cloud of good fortunes around her.

But I don’t believe in those spiritual mumbo-jumbos! I was determined to leave her. This made me begin applying for jobs in other states and towns, but nothing came forth.

I even went for interview/test but didn’t scale through. Some weeks later, she told me that she wasn’t in support of me getting job in another town (she says she was scared of losing me).

Did you know? the time I decided to remove the thoughts of leaving her from mind and fully accept her into my life, was the time that I finally got a better job in another city!


We got married in 2019 and I was of the mindset that since she may be an ogbanje, therefore things would work in my favour and I would become a millionaire very quickly, but that’s not the case.

Since marriage, any decision I take without her approval always leads to disaster!
I wanted to invest in a partnership deal and told her about it but she disapproved and said I should save the money instead.

I went ahead to invest and I lost 400k! Same for other decisions in the house, the outcome was always negative whenever I don’t heed her advice.

I hate all this! I’m a full-grown man. Why should my life be based on the decisions of a woman? I feel like I’m no longer in control of my life.

I’m about to take a car loan from my company in order to escape this constant public commute and trekking but she has vehemently disapproved, that I should instead save for another year or two before buying car.

But I still won’t listen to her! If the loan ends in a disaster, I have decided that I would abandon this marriage and relocate to another country.

A country where voodoo and religious mumbo-jumbo do not exist, so that I can be in full control of my life!

…….PS: we have a year-old baby girl. Maybe I could be sending monthly upkeep from this new country I intend to relocate to.

Able readers, is my final decision a good one?