Every marriage has its own set of problems – from the small, infrequent ones to the big, recurring ones that cause serious headaches for the partners.
For people in joyless and seemingly indissoluble marriages, the obvious option would be to seek a way out and look for happiness elsewhere, but as experience teaches, many people in such situations often choose to stay in the marriage.
Here are six common reasons why they do so:
1. the hope for change
Many people stay with husbands and wives who don’t treat them right in the hope that they would eventually change, and that’s actually a good reason. But the question is; do bad habits just die?
2. fear for their children
‘I don’t want my children to grow up with separated parents
3. what will people say?
Fear of what people will say should never be so strong that it affects your decisions or choices. If you choose to stay and fight for your marriage and happiness, it is not because you are afraid of what people would say.
4. fear of the unknown
Where will I go from here? What am I going to do? Where am I going to start from? Who would take me?’
5. family issues
‘No one in my family has ever separated or been divorced. I don’t want to be the first.’
Some other times people stay in bad marriages not because they hope for change, they don’t even look for it.
They just stay in the marriage, numbed by years of disappointment and indifferent to what else is happening, or not happening.
7. financial dependence
For some others, staying in a bad, toxic marriage is due to not having the financial resources to support their desired lifestyle if they decide to leave.
The desire to leave the marriage may be there, but given the lack of financial resources or a way to make money on a regular basis, they stay in the unhappy relationship.
If there was ever a time to explain the reason why everyone needs to be financially independent, whether they are in a marriage or not, now is the time.
Being an independent person should be non-negotiable, especially in the financial sense. You must have your own money. There is no doubt about that.