Veteran actor Pete Edochie is about to launch another round of debate among women regarding the issue of feminism and how it triggers domestic violence in homes.
In an interview with BBC Igbo, the 74-year-old actor lamented how African society has been negatively affected by this whole idea of feminism and how women who embrace this feminist ideology are a major problem in their marriages.
Driving his point home, he said:
“Feminism isn’t something black people are known for. Once a woman leaves her parents to meet her husband and take his surname, she is to be submissive to him. If she wasn’t married, she could do whatever she wants,” he said.
“Women walk and show off their behinds; it’s so that men would find them. If you see such a woman and express your marriage interest, then she starts walking properly. Our women now plunge into feminism nowadays.
“They can’t even keep their husbands anymore. Is that a good thing? These women are schooled, but a lot of wives now can’t even cook — one thing that a woman should be good in so as to be able to keep her husband.
“My mother was not educated, but she would cook all sorts of soups, including bitter leaf, Oha, Ogbono, Okro, Egusi, Ukwa, and what have you. My father would always get back home hurriedly to eat what his wife had cooked.
“Today, our wives can’t even cook anymore. Women who can’t cook aren’t supposed to call themselves women. And feminism is what causes women to be beaten up in marriages. You complain to a woman, and she retorts.
“It becomes unbearable, so you stretch your arm and deal her a slap. Domestic violence starts. I don’t like seeing women crying because it hurts me deeply. But it is the fault of the woman herself a lot of times.”
“To be honest, the understanding of women is low. I’m not a misogynist, but I’ve associated with them a lot, even at work. Feminism has no place in our culture. We don’t worship women as the whites do,” he added.
“In the west, women could join forces and accuse a male colleague of assault. The man resigns. This can’t happen in our culture. As a young woman, if pedestrians don’t admire you, you’d weep for fear of not being beautiful.
“I’m a strong adherent of culture. Kneeling to put a ring on a woman’s hands is not our culture. Any man who does that transfers the headship of his family to that woman. Until my dad died at 96, he never knelt to propose.
“It’s just like kneeling down on entering a church because there’s a higher being to whom you’re paying respect. Men climb trees to tap palm wine. How does it look if women do the same? Today women dictate to me.
“It wasn’t like that in our days. How women talk to men nowadays isn’t how we were raised. My mother was never beaten. My wife and I have been married for 52 years. I never beat her. My five married sons don’t beat their wives.”